I’m Published!
This year, my writing journey has taken another step forward, and I am privileged to announce that one of my pieces has been published in Chicken Soup for the Soul’s “I’m Speaking Now.” This collection of stories shares experiences of triumph, love, pain, hope, and more, written by an all Black ensemble of women authors.…
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A Good White Friend Part 5: The Hardest Question
In our series about how to be a Good White Friend, we have explored specific situational occurrences that appear within interracial friendships. Its the response when another black life is ended through the far-reaching claws of institutional racism and brute-force policing of black bodies. Its challenging the habit of viewing your black friends through the…
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A Good White Friend Part 4: Home Court Advantage
In team sports, there’s an entire psychology around the advantages of athletes performing near home in an environment with familiar situations and fans versus the disadvantages of being the guest players who are subject to the additional demands of competing in foreign territory without support from a fan-base present. It’s the reason that high-stakes games…
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A Good White Friend Part 3: Be Good at Being Wrong
No one is right all the time. We make mistakes. We step in it. We say the wrong things. It’s a normal human occurrence. What we do and how we handle it when we say or do the wrong thing is what illustrates our character far more than the wrong action or statement itself. A…
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A Good White Friend Part 2: We Don’t Fit In Your Box
It’s hard to be a member of a wide group of people and feel like you have to prove that you’re different from the “bad ones.” A white person may feel like it’s challenging to have to prove “I’m not racist” when the current social climate feels so charged because of what we see in…
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A Good White Friend Part 1: Acknowledge Our Grief
Tragedy happens everywhere and to every type of person. It’s a part of the human experience. But when deeply tragic, newsworthy events happen, we often feel a brief sadness before self-preservation kicks in and hides our fears in the belief that things like that don’t happen to us. We keep the right company. We live…
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New Tribe: Meet the Neighbors
Welcome back to the next installation in our series about building new friendships in our adult lives. Growing up takes us in new directions, creates new priorities, and has a tendency to have a big impact on our friendships. In my case, moving around to different states while growing a family created geographic separation between…
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New Tribe: Power in Numbers
Welcome back to our exploration of ways to build relationships and make friends as an adult. In the first post, we talked about how often adults find themselves feeling alone because life has morphed into something different than we remember from our care-free days of hanging out with friends we organically acquired. With sweeping life…
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Building a New Tribe in a New Place
Four and a half years ago I found myself on an island. But the worst kind of island. No sand. No palm trees. No ocean. It was that figurative island of moving to a new place where I didn’t know a single person or have any familiarity with the city. It was truly starting over…
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Merry Gift-mas
I swear I’m not a Grinch. I love Christmas! There’s something about the lights and pageantry that makes the world seem to be dusted in magic. The cold weather becomes tolerable, just because it fits with the theme. I look forward to the holiday parties and the ugly sweaters. I don’t even criticize the phony…
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The Well-Adjusted Adult 